Monday, September 3, 2018

Getting Closer

It's really kind of sad, but with my daughter in jail for a few more weeks, I've been more relaxed and happy than ever.  Don't get me wrong; I miss her.  But I miss my real daughter, not that drug addicted thief I used to live with.  I hope my real daughter is the one who returns but I'm terrified that as soon as she's out, she will relapse and I will have to bury my firstborn.

But for now, I spend time with my husband.  We relish our empty nest syndrome (me more than him) and we can just get up and go out without worrying about child care.  It's really nice!

A pleasant walk on New Smyrna Beach on a cloudy Sunday afternoon.
My full time job is going very well.  Hard to believe I'll be there almost two years!  It's definitely the best job I've ever had, hands down.  I feel valued, challenged, and respected in this position and I've turned down other possible positions that paid more, but it's hard for me to leave a job I love so much.  I don't even mind the drive (especially since I have my new car!) and I still get the giggles when I get to leave early at 1pm every Friday as one of my perks.

I love my second job too.  I'm actually currently "working" right now as I write this blog post.  I have 30 minutes left in my "office hour" but I'm done grading.  So as long as I hang out and wait for any of my students to appear, I can do pretty much whatever I want.

My husband finally left his job as a long distance trucker.  He came home and took a temp job as a dump truck driver, all the while looking for something else local with reasonable hours.  It's ridiculous how many hours these local jobs were expecting their drivers to work with no rest and no over time.  He's not a very old guy (46 in December) but he couldn't keep up with the ridiculous hours and was reaching burn out very quickly.  On a whim, I said, "it's a shame you can't teach truck driving like I'm teaching coding."  So we googled that and it turned out that two nearby truck driving schools were hiring instructors.  I applied for him to the nearest one, they literally called the next day wanting to talk to him!  He then went in the following day to do a road test, they took copies of his license, and I kid you not, two days later they offered him a full time position as an instructor!  He took it, he starts next week and we will finally have a life with each other!  We are both so excited about this part of our lives together.  We have spent a lot of years apart and while we can't get that time back, we can certainly be excited about the future.

How are you feeling about your future these days?

Sunday, July 22, 2018

What Next?

To me, these days feel like strange times to me.  I'm not actively looking to find or change jobs.  My marriage is secure and we enjoy each other's company.  My children are grown (although not really doing too many grown up things, but I'm sure that will come.)  These days, my husband is looking to change from over the road driving to local work (interview tomorrow!) and for us to spend more time together as a couple.  We're looking for fun things to do in Central Florida that are not theme park oriented and working on sprucing up the back yard to become an intimate party haven for our friends and family.

Maybe this is something that just comes to couples in their forties, but we really enjoy spending time at home together, grilling out, sitting on our porch, while our puppies frolic around us and we avoid drama.  He wants to garden, I want to read.  We spend time together, but also apart, and contentment is the order of the day.  As I am writing this, he's in the garage working on a project, while I ran a load of dishes, one of the laundry, and about to start grading some papers for my second job.

I got my hair done again (every two months, I try to be consistent!) and like I said in my birthday post back in May, I think I've found my look.  I did rose gold again (with a few darker pink stripes thrown in) and kept to my inverted lob.

Even grown out, it looked pretty good.  I also got new glasses again.  One of these days, I will spring for Lasik.

I can always tells when I need a cut because I get frizzy on the ends.

Off to my stylist!

Yeah.  She's kind of amazing.  I got a cut and my hair looks longer!  Of course, she straightened it for me.  One of these days, I will get a straightener.

Yes,  I love this.  I feel refreshed!

I also did this...this helped to remove some of the bulk and help my hair look longer.

Of course I had to wear a pink shirt to show off my new pink hair.

Cubicle light doing nothing for me here.

Friday morning vibes.  I'm ready to gooooooo.

Off to a seminar on Saturday morning.
What kind of activities do you like to do with your husband?  Hubs and I are considering taking up bike riding.  We both have bikes already, and Central Florida has lots of great trails.  Also, there is an ecotourism push to connect all the trails in Central Florida so they go across the entire state from coast to coast (meaning, East Coast Atlantic Ocean to West Coast Gulf of Mexico.)  It's a great way to get in shape and spend time together!  I'm a Disney lover but it's so expensive and my husband is not a theme park fan.

Sunday, July 1, 2018

She Rewards Herself

Morning peeps!  I've got over an hour before church and it really doesn't take me that long to get ready, so thought I'd do a blog post.  Except for the situation with my daughter (she's a drug addict, if you're new to my blog) I'm doing well in my life these days.  So well, that I decided to do this:

My first brand new car!

It's a 2017 Fiat 500 and only 113 miles on her.

Can't even begin to tell you how much I'm enjoying this new car!

So if you've been around long enough, you might remember that in 2014, I bought a Dodge Dart.  It was not my dream car.  It was the car I needed at the time because I had three teens living at home and needed a full size back seat, but still I needed good gas mileage.  It was a mom car for sure.  And it did the trick for four years!  Well, my oldest son moved out, my daughter is in and out of either jail or rehab, and it's really only me and my youngest kiddo.  I drive 300 miles per week just going back and forth to work, and my Dart was leaving me stranded.  The AC would cut in and out (not in Florida in the summer...oh hell no), I was replacing parts every month plus still making a car payment, and the gas mileage wasn't as good as it used to be.  I was fed up, frustrated, and after a 2 hour drive home in traffic one day when the AC went out again and I nearly fainted from the heat, I had had enough.  I traded the Dart in (got a much better price than I expected, about 3000 more than Kelley Blue Book), and ended up with a payment only 100 more per month.  I know, I know.  I hate payments too.  But with my husband being a trucker and gone a lot, I needed a dependable car with a warranty.  For the extra 100 per month, I'd say that's worth it.  Not only that, but because of my amazing job as a coder, I did it all without my husband.  The car is in MY NAME, I used MY PAY STUBS, and I handled all of the paperwork MYSELF without him.  I got a little emotional over it.  My husband and I, we are a team and I love him to pieces.  But knowing that I was able to afford this little car on my own, independently, made my heart swell with pride.  I think when you grow up so stinking poor, on food stamps and Medicaid and all the government stuff, you don't ever forget how quickly things can go to hell.  Knowing that I managed, with the help of God, my mother who raised me without my father giving a damn about me, and my own hard work, that I can take care of myself now, made me tear up.  I will never, ever, EVER, forget where I came from.  I know it's just a little car, and not an expensive one at that, but I can't stop grinning when I look out my windows and see her sitting there, waiting on me.  I get up in the mornings excited to get on the interstate (who the hell am I?!?) so I can drive her.  Oh, she doesn't have a name yet, I've only had her for a week although I'm leaning towards Valentina.  Why Valentina?  Because I love her and she's red.

One other thing I get to share, is that I was able to pick up a second job, and I am in love with this job.  I wasn't even actively looking, as I'd applied to Publix, Pizza Hut, and a  Mexican joint near my job, and heard back from none of them.  I knew I couldn't be fast enough to do fast food.  So I just figured that I wasn't going to get anything, and I was fine with it.  A friend of mine from the AAPC meetings messaged me out of the blue to ask me if I'd considered teaching.  Now, I tried this before and never got a response from the college which tried to recruit me before, and I gave up on it after 9 months or so.   This was a different school, so I forwarded my resume and didn't expect anything.  I was right: it took 6 months for them to call me back, but I finally got an interview and was hired on the spot as an online adjunct instructor for medical coding and billing.  Yes, that's right.  I'M A COLLEGE PROFESSOR!!!   Now, it's only part time, and I'm only teaching one class right now because I'm new and trying to get the hang of it.  But I love it so much.  I get to do it from home, I'm able to show my love of this field to newcomers, and the pay is decent.  Every single penny is going towards debt (it's not very funny, but all of my credit card debt is due to my daughter; rehab bills and her car) and I get to do it while I'm doing a load of laundry in my pajamas.  God is good, peeps.  I struggled quite a bit financially and professionally from 2014 to 2016, but it has turned around and I am so geeked over it!

Now my prayers are centered over the health of my daughter (mentally and physically) and my husband, who is definitely over long distance trucking.  I hope you'll be praying for the health of my family, and I'll be praying for yours.  God is good, all the time.  All the time, God is good.